Open Mind, Open Mouth, and Open Legs: 6 Sexy Ways to Get What You Desire

Let’s get straight to the point - we all want a fantastic sex life. However, we may not know how to get what our hearts, minds, and bodies desire or require. To help you unlock your passion and pleasure, here are six steps to add spice to your love life and turn up the heat in your bedroom.

At the end of these sexy six steps, you will get three bonus challenges to ignite the heat in your relationship!

1.      Speak on Your Intentions with Confidence

Before you can tell your partner or lover what you are craving, you must first know exactly what your sexual needs are. Once you have determined your desires, you must confidently communicate your desires to your partner. Remember, it is not what you say but how you say it. Let your words drip like honey, slow and sweet. For example, instead of being demanding or forceful, if you want more extended foreplay, in a whisper or a low moan, say, “I love it when you take your time with me.” Or “When you go slow, it turns me on.” That tells them to go slower, not rush, and that you have all night.

2.      Set the Stage

Create the scene for sexual adventure and seduction. Dim the lights, play sensual music, and include tasty treats like chocolate and fruit. Do not forget a delicious wine or fun fruity drink. Use your five senses to add passion to the space. Does it smell alluring? Are you wearing their favorite scent? Are there colorful pillows or sheer scarves filling your space? What textures are around you? Is there a plush comforter or rug to lay on? Are you wearing satin or silk loungewear or lingerie? Make the atmosphere sexy and inviting.

3.      Use Touch to Show and Tell

Let your body do the talking. Use the art of touch to show and guide your partner on what you want them to do. Place their hands where you want them to touch you. Massage, give long lingering kisses, caress them gently, or do a slow, seductive grind. Your touch speaks volumes.

4.      Initiate the Moment

Be confident and take control! This time, you initiate sex with your partner. Please do not be shy as you lead them into a beautiful moment of lovemaking. You can initiate a new toy, position, or something fun and kinky you both have talked about. You know what you want and what your partner likes, so go for it.

5.      Make Your Partner Desire You

Playful teasing never hurts. Send a spicy text message while you are away from one another. You can say, “I had a nasty disagreement with my coworker today. It looks like I will need a spanking when I get home.”  Leave a sexy note on the bathroom mirror or the car’s steering wheel they will find when they leave for work. You can even give them a sexy challenge such as, “The last one home from work today has to give a full body massage with warm scented oil.” This adds excitement to get home, and the “punishment” is a win for both. Tell them you cannot wait to make slow, passionate love to them. Let the sexual tension build throughout the day.

6.      Talk Dirty Like a Vixen

Unleash your inner sex Goddess and let your partner know what you need and like during sex. Do not be afraid to push the verbal boundaries by speaking your fantasies and what feels good. Create a sexy alter ego, make your partner call you by that name, and let your voice be heard. Moan loudly and release your animalistic sounds. Your partner will appreciate this passionate moment.

When you open your mind, you unlock new sexual discoveries. Effective communication creates a loving, trusting bond when you open your mouth. And when you open your legs, well, that’s the prize – the reward of desire fully embraced.

The Bonus Three Playful Challenges to Get What You Desire

1.      Trivia Strip Quiz – Each person asks a trivia question, and the one who answers wrong must remove an article of clothing. Depending on how you look at it, the first one naked is the winner…or are they the loser? You can create trivia categories, like R&B song lyrics, sports, food, or movies. Since we’re on the tail end of Black History Month, ask some Black History questions. Let’s see how smart you really are!

2.      Sexy Scavenger Hunt – Leave a series of clues that lead to different locations. These locations can be around the house or around the city for the more adventurous couple! At each location, the partner finds a small reward, such as an intimate item like lacy panties, a sensual command such as a 30-second sensual dance, or a flirty dare like removing a clothing item. All the clues must be located within a certain amount of time. The final reward is unique, like a massage at a day spa, an overnight getaway, or a romantic dinner at a restaurant you have both wanted to attend.

3.      Fire and Desire – Warning: this has nothing to do with real flames! Each partner writes down three sexy things they would love to experience. Fold up each experience and take turns drawing a random one. Whatever is drawn must be done before the night is over. You can do this in the morning and keep the anticipation going all day, but the sexy experience must be completed before the night is over.

Use touch to show and tell